How To Guide

Stop Explaining Yourself

What did you say? You no longer want to explain yourself to people, but you don’t know how? See, I already thought I heard a vague voice in the distance asking me this, while I was sitting on the toilet, scrolling through my Insta feed…Wait, what? I said sitting not shitting, right? Anyway, let’s get to it!

WHY FAILURE

If you actually think about it, explaining yourself is a pretty useless thing to do. Let’s be real. Besides the fact that it can be really frustrating, because the person you’re talking to doesn’t want to get it, they are already entitled to their own opinions. So tell me, my dear reader, why da hell are you still trying so hard to convince them?

Please, stop it. *Says it louder, for the people in the back* STOP IT!

You do not need approval. You do not need to be Kylie Jenner, explaining to the entire universe why you put botox in your lips, just because people are forcing you to open up about it. No one actually cares. They are going to judge you regardless of what you do. So, my advise is: Do your ish and screw what others think of you.

Yes, this is the only way to get rid of that sheep suit so you can transform into the king or queen of the jungle. But, before you do that, you must understand yourself first.

How do you do that? I hear you say. Let me explain it to you. See, I’m not even asking you to subscribe to my blog in return, because I am not like that… But, just in case you were wondering, you can find the subscription box at the bottom of this page 😉

Sit down and ask yourself who you are as a person? What are your values? Do you respect yourself? Do you love yourself? What is your personality? Just have a nice conversation with yourself. You are not weird for doing that, I do the same thing all the time and I’m completely normal *person next to me chokes on water*

YAAASSSS!
So you’re really going to stop convincing people now?

No but for real, you need to gain a little bit more confidence, boo. And once you know, understand and respect who you are as a person, you’ll gain that, belieb me (no typo).

Once you start to understand and accept who you are as a person, you’ll notice that you’re slowly going to quit convincing others that what you are or aren’t doing is because of (fill in the blanks).

And I’m not talking about explaining yourself to someone in the name of trust because that is a whole different story.

Put your time and energy into the things that are beneficial to you. Nobody is perfect, except for Beyoncé. She is flawless AND she woke up like that. Yeah, I can’t relate….

Video credit: Jstlbby on Instagram


But seriously, you should never have to explain yourself to the outside world. You’re a person that has been through lots of ups and downs (just like any other human being in the world). All those things shaped you in the way you think and act. Through experience you gain knowledge and that makes you, you.

Live a little

Only if a person has walked in your shoes, they will (maybe) understand what you’re trying to tell them. Otherwise, they won’t. They just won’t.

Look, sometimes we just need to make mistakes in order to learn. And I’m not going to sit here, writing that if you make the same mistake twice, it’s not a mistake anymore, but you’re just wrong. Like, what? What happened to:

”Fall down seven times, get up eight”? – Japanese Proverb

If I can’t even enjoy making the same mistake twice, JUST TWICE!? Let me live a little, damn.

Alright, let me calm my titties before I start to write the end part of this masterpiece *cough cough*.

It’s just that I think that you are super awesome, unique and rad and you should be free. Free to do whatever you want to do in life. Live it the way you want to live it and do what feels right to you, without having to explain a damn thing.

It’s not a bad thing to listen to feedback but don’t pay too much attention to it. Always improve yourself, but never lose your true identity.

And sure, not everyone’s the same. There are people who appreciate what you’re telling them and who actually understand your reasons. That’s why I’m saying to chose wisely to whom you’re putting all your energy in.

Have an awesome Monday, folks!

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2 comments

  1. Goed bezig dounia ❤️❤️ Super inspirerend net zoals jij als persoon!!

    Blijven doorgaan met dit! Hou ervan om het te lezen.

    Liefs je oude vriend David 😘

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    1. Lieve David ❤

      Dit is zo’n lieve comment, mijn hart is ervan gesmolten!!
      Super bedankt voor je lieve woorden, ze doen me echt goed. Ik zal er zeker mee doorgaan!
      Ben enorm blij om te weten dat je mijn content graag leest!

      Dikke lippenstift kus van mij 💋

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