Is failure really that bad? Or is it something we should be thankful for? I was inspired to write this blog post after I finished watching Episode #1041 of The Joe Rogan Experience. It was this part in particular. I love to listen to his podcasts because they’re always so inspiring, interesting and motivational to me. So without any further ado, I hope you enjoy! (because it took me quite some time to write. Ugh, the things I do for my precious readers. *insert heart emoji here*)
Moroccan tea or Gouda cheese?
So you think you’re a loser? A failure? A nothing? Why do you think that of yourself? Because you failed? You know, you’re actually very lucky to be in a position of failing.
And I know what you’re thinking: ”Dounia, dafuq?” But, let me explain it to you.
When a person is successful, we only see the success, but we don’t see the blood, sweat and tears. We see the money they make, the clothes they wear and the cars they drive. We want that as well, and expect it to happen overnight. Now I can tell you, that that is not going to happen. Unless you’re me, I sold my soul to the devil. So when you see my book that hasn’t even been written yet, labeled as a New York Time Best Seller, you now know the secret.
No just kidding, I didn’t sell my soul to the devil, yet. I have an appointment next Monday, wish me luck! By the way, since I’m part Dutch and part Moroccan, I don’t know if I should bring him Moroccan tea or Gouda cheese? Let me know in the comments. I don’t want to meet him empty handed, you know. My momma raised me better than that!
To bring you back to the title: ”Failure Teaches You Things You Don’t Learn From Success” is actually a quote by Joe Rogan himself. And to substantiate this quote a little more, here is a list of some of the things that failure teaches you that success doesn’t:
- how to deal with failure
Pretty impressive, huh? Think about this list the next time you want to call yourself a loser. You are NOT. Cut it out, you’re strong and you got this. You hear me? YOU. GOT. THIS!
The struggle is real
Success isn’t the end goal, it’s the journey. Even if you don’t feel motivated, you still put your heart and soul into it, because you’re dedicated, right? You actually deserve a round of applause for that. And no, I am not sarcastic. I’m really proud of you.
When you invest all your time, energy, effort and sometimes even money into your dream(s), you expect to succeed right away. But then The Emperor decides to activate his Death Star, aims it at your dreams and destroys all your hard work in less than a second.
YOU FAILED! And you’re going to be disappointed, regardless. That’s the moment where most people quit. Because, they expected to succeed at the first try. But that’s not how the force works! You have to fight. Remember my previous post? Yes, not that one, but the one before that? I described in approximately 600 words why you are a true fighter. Why the hell do you decide to quit now!?
You have all the resources and although life is tough and awful, you still had the passion to chase your dream before everything was destroyed. Don’t be intimidated that fast now, Champ!
You are not Rebecca! (unless that’s your real name)
Reaching the level of success takes time and I think one of the main reasons people quit very easily is because they compare themselves to others.
”Because Rebecca started around the same time you did and she already got her Bachelor’s Degree while you’re still struggling in High School…” Okay, that would be a pretty weird situation and if that’s the case, you should consider if school is something for you. But, you get my point, right?
This is just a very weird example, but what it comes down to is that you shouldn’t be worrying about other people’s lives. You are walking your own, unique path and just like any other, it is filled with bumps, pits and hills, but you can still make it. In fact, you might be closer to the finish line than you think.
REMEMBER: Overcoming failure leads to growth. So, your future success isn’t determined by your current state as long as you keep moving on. Only then, it shouldn’t matter where you’re at, at the moment. Because moments from now, you will look back and say: Damn, I did start from the bottom and now I’m actually here. #ThanksDrake!
Fart insane or remain the same
Every bump or hill you come across on your journey to success, gives you the ability to grow. Let me take you back in time. Let’s say, you are 12 years old. Now, compare that person to the person you are today. What has changed? Do you still have the same values? Personality? Interests? You don’t want to be at the same spot 10+ years from now, don’t you? You no longer want to be a victim of your sibling’s or cousin’s farts? Well then, you better step your game up and fart insane, otherwise…. You know the drill.
You changed because you went from child to teenager to adult and just like any other human being, you sometimes were the ruler of the Jungle and then all of a sudden you were the biggest nerd in High School. That’s not a bad thing. You got to taste a little of both so that you can create a balance for yourself. What if you decided to quit at that age, just because you weren’t considered royalty back then? Then you would never have become the person you are today. And even if you are not happy with your current state, you are still in the position to change that.
Change is a good thing. It drags you out of your comfort zone and yes, it can make you feel weird. It can even make you feel a bit depressed, but that is only temporary. You should constantly tease yourself by stepping out of your comfort zone. Explore the unknown, so that you can let your life unfold. Break free from the mentality that tells you, you can’t achieve your dreams.
I like this quote by Han Solo where he says:
”Never tell me the odds.” – Han Solo (quote starts at 1:00 min.)
I fully agree with him. Because, once you listen to what your chances are or better said: aren’t, you’re automatically going to put limits yourself, maybe even doubt yourself and
Failures are lessons that will shape your character for better or worse. And like as always, you are the one that has to make the decision. Because no matter how many times you failed or are going to fail, your desire to succeed needs to be greater than that, in order to overcome it.
We all have to start somewhere. It’s not a matter of luck, it’s all about hard work and dedication. You got to ask yourself every time you feel like quitting: ”How bad do I want it?”.
Accept or force choke
Don’t be so hard on yourself for failing, you’re trying the best you can and I think that’s enough. Give it some time, go with the flow and accept every learning experience that comes your way. Keep striving to do better, keep pushing yourself, stay motivated and dedicated.
Be your own biggest critic, so that you can learn from your mistakes, better yourself from it and move on.
Don’t get stuck in the past or play the victim. Unfortunately we live in a world where you got to put in the work to make a name for yourself. It won’t be handed over to you. And the sooner you except that fact, the sooner you’ll set more realistic goals for yourself and with that become more content with the outcome. Or you could just force choke the first person you see and move on from that. I mean, whatever you desire right? It’s your life!
Stop comparing yourself
I can’t really blame you, though for being so hard on yourself. In today’s society we see 20 year olds driving Lamborghini’s, flying across the world in their private jets while eating caviar. Like bish, if we (the regular 20 year olds) go on vacation, the only economy that counts to us is Economy class, our eyebrows aren’t always on fleek and at the airport we eat a double cheese burger from Burger King as breakfast because that summer body wasn’t going to happen anyway.
We see these images online from people who are an exception. Most of the teenagers/young adults live the regular life. That’s why I’m basically warning you to not compare yourself to those exceptions. But, you can see them as an inspiration. Apparently you want to live that same lifestyle, so do your best and you make a very good chance to turn it into reality for yourself. *Work by Rihanna starts playing in the background*
I will never judge you for the decisions you make in life. I will never judge your pace either. Do what feels right to you, but make sure you’ll do your very best. Failure is a part of the game. And sometimes it’s the negative things that brings us down but also up at the same time.
Thank you very much for reading this extremely long blog post. I was really feeling myself. Before I’m going to wish you all a fabulous day, I want to thank you for your time, follows, the likes and comments. I appreciate every single one of you.
Have a fabulous Thursdurrr!