21 Life Lessons in 21 Years

LIFE! Wether it’s good or bad, it’s something we all have to go through. And during our lifetime we learn a lot from these curveballs it tends to throw at us from time to time. And wether they’re good or bad, they always teach us great values. So, here are 21 lessons, life has thought me in 21 years!

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    1. Positivity is a choice | No matter what happens, we always have the option to choose to be: positive or negative. Since negativity won’t do you any good in life, I would suggest to choose positive. It always helps you and will never let you down.

    2. There’s no such thing as ”one size fits all” | What works for you, doesn’t necessarily have to work for someone else. Learning to accept that not everyone’s the same is very beautiful to me, because you start to understand different perspectives. And the greater the knowledge, the better you’re able to help yourself and someone else.

    3. Everything starts from within. | Self-care, self-acceptance, self-love, self-respect, self-awareness and self-belief all start from within. Before you can focus on anyone else, you must take good care of yourself first. That’s not ego, that’s called caring. Once you are one with yourself (even if it’s still hard to be from time to time), no one and nothing in this world can tear you down. You know who you are as a person, what your values are and you stand by it. It’s truly an art-form on it’s own, if you’d ask me.

    4. Fear is only in our minds Fear is not real. It’s something we create, that will only destroy the very thing we want to do, or be in life. To beat fear you must tell it to FUCK OFF, give it your middle-finger and JUST DO IT. Life’s too short to play it safe all the time. Which brings me to my next lesson…

    5. Taking risks leads indeed to growth | We all grow in size, but to grow in character we must live, and in order to live we must take risks. Otherwise, you’ll forever be stuck in the same position until time’s up. We have way too many potential to choose that option, so I advise to live life to the fullest and to take the risks. You’ll have nothing to lose, but you definitely have something to gain. Don’t be afraid to fail, it’s going to teach you things, success never will. Be fearless and watch your life unfold in front of your eyes.mi-pham-223464-unsplash.jpg

    6. Don’t be afraid to speak your mind | This can be hard, because honesty can hurt those you love. But, at the end of the day, you are the one that has to live a lie if you’re not honest with yourself and those around you. You are blessed with a mouth and voice. So use it, but never intentionally to hurt others. Your opinion matters, remember that. 

    7. Honesty is key | Those who lie a lot, will have a hard time remembering everything. So don’t make it hard for yourself and just be honest. People will know what they can expect from you because you’re not constantly changing faces. Be you and be proud!

    8. You can overcome any struggle in life | With determination and dedication, you can and will overcome everything life throws at you. That doesn’t make the situations easier, you just learn how to deal with it with a wiser and stronger mentality, the next time you’re facing it.

    9. Be grateful | For everything and anything in life, no matter how small or simple. Don’t yell at your parents, but thank them for taking care of you. Don’t curse at your alarm-clock in the morning, but instead thank God, the universe or something else you believe in, for a new day. Fill your heart with gratitude and it will finds it’s way back to you with more things to be thankful for.

    10. Forgive frequently | *Puts on Hannah Montana* Everybody makes mistakes, everybody has those days! Nobody’s perfect, so don’t expect them to be. We all have to learn in order to grow. You can be tough for standing by your decision and not forgiving them, but it takes way more strength to forgive. We all try to figure out what we’re doing and since life doesn’t bring a book that explains how to live it correctly, we must experience it on our own.

    11. Question everything | I’m not trying to sound like a crazy conspiracy theorist (although I am!!) but it’s important to never believe the ”he says, she says” bullshit. If you want to know what’s going on, ask the person directly. Don’t talk behind their backs, because everyone has their own interpretations. Do the knowledge, do your research and find about the truth yourself. Don’t rely on other people.
      Denzel be like: hmm, interesting Dounia, but now I’m question if what you’re saying is indeed fact or not… #woops

    12. Tell & show your loved ones that you care for them | Life can be over in a second and the time you’ve had with someone will never come back. So, make sure you tell them how much they mean to you and prove it. They are important to you for a reason so there’s no shame in showing it to them. 

    13. Be nice to people for no reason | I really love this one, actually. I remember so many times when people walked passed me, looking down with a frown. And when I smiled to them, they lightened up. Just like that. And vice versa it has the same impact. Kindness is very powerful. In fact, it’s so powerful, that someone who doesn’t know you in person, will always remember what you did to them. So make sure you treat people right. But, never let them take advantage of that.

    14. Be careful with who you hang out with | People can have good and bad influences on you. So make sure the people you hang around with have good intentions and are uplifting, positive, motivating, funny and inspiring. We ain’t got no time for toxic people, right!?

    15. Let go & move on | Sometimes things are out of our control. We regret the chances we didn’t take, we wished to see things differently etc. But, all those things can’t be changed. The only thing we can change is how we are going to act after that. So, accept the past, let go of what was and move on. Learn from your mistakes and rawr even louder this time!photo-1486611289333-50d2b3ac99d1

    16. Smile more | Smiling and laughing is the perfect medicine to the soul. Enjoy life more, my friend. Have fun, make jokes, don’t take it too seriously all the time and show the world your amazing smile.

    17. Embrace every moment | It’s important to be aware of what’s happening and wether you’re having a good or bad day, you must embrace it. Let life be and go with the flow. As a wise man once said: ”Be water my friend.” – Bruce Lee

    18. Follow your passion | Doing what you love, leads to instant happiness. It’s not soul-sucking, but gives you energy instead and it’s just so important. We all  have a passion, something that we want to do for the rest of our lives. Take the risk and follow your dream. YOU. ARE. NEVER. TOO. OLD!

    19. Don’t plan too muchThis is comparable to #17, but slightly different. You can only plan so much in life. So let things be for what they are. Learn how to deal with unexpected moments instead of trying to control everything, which is impossible.sarah-gray-351935-unsplash

    20. Worry less | Don’t be so hard on yourself, you’re doing great and that’s enough. There’s no need to have figured out life yet. Focus on making everyday a success. Strive for greatness, vibrate higher and be proud of yourself. Worrying won’t solve anything. Either you can or can’t change it, there’s no reason to worry. Be happy. 🙂

    21. Get things off your chest| Talking about what’s bothering you helps to let go of things. Don’t hold it back and put it in ”drawers”. Because, there will be a day that those drawers are overfilled and going to explode. Talk about it with people you trust or seek help from a professional. You don’t have to get through everything by yourself. There are people out there who can help and who care about your well-being.

Do you have a favorite life lesson from this list? Or do you have one yourself that you find very important? Share it with me in the comments below!

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