Comparing Kills & This Is Why

Comparing… We all have done it at least once in our life. Why do we do it? Why is it slowly killing us? Are all questions I will be answering in today’s blog post! 

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Alright, so before I begin I want to say hi to all the new amazing people who decided to follow my blog! It truly means the world to me. So, Hi! I’m Dounia and I’m just a regular degular shmegular girl who likes to blog about deep stuff such as oceans. Welcome! 💖

Tell me why ain’t nothing but a heartache

Why do we compare? Is a question we should ask ourselves before we understand what it does to us. See, comparing has both sides. You’re either down grading yourself, or you think you’re better than someone.

And it’s not just an adult thing. People do this since their children. I think it’s just another thing that’s ”in our nature”. Trying to impress others is not always a bad thing though, but where do you draw the line? Is impressing others truly worth all the effort or are you wasting precious time and energy?

a visual representation of my readers asking me if what I’m writing is da truth or nah.

In my opinion, I think that comparing yourself to others will lead to a very unsatisfying life. Wether it’s benefitting you or not, you’re living your life to impress others instead of yourself. Comparing is a great way to become a bitter person in a lot of cases. And correct me if I’m wrong, but I say this because when you’re comparing, you’re most likely to become competitive to others and never to yourself.

So how do I change this?” Something you never asked me, but I will tell you anyway. Well, my friend, that’s simple. Instead of comparing yourself, be inspired by them. Instead of saying: ”She doesn’t deserve it as much as I do because I worked harder” say ”I think it’s great she achieved that and if she can do it, I can do it too.” You’ll automatically create a more positive attitude too.

The mind is a very powerful tool. One simple change in the way you think can lead to big results, for the better or worse. – Me

There’s no need to compare yourself. You are born unique and everything about your life is unique. Yes, I agree, sometimes we watch movies or listen to certain songs that tells a story that’s very similiar to what we’ve been through ourselves, but still our lives are different. Just because you can relate, doesn’t mean you can compare.


You, the person reading this, is walking a different path then I do or someone else around the world. And let’s say you and I are both upcoming bloggers, striving for success and becoming the writer of next Oscar worthy movie, then wouldn’t it be greater to support each other? Maybe a nice collab one day? Or share some information, instead of comparing?

The ”perfect” life

Especially these days, where we share our amazing lives on social media, it’s very likely to compare almost 24/7. Because the people who are on Insta and Facebook are living the perfect lives, right? At least that’s what they show me, right?


Don’t believe everything you see on the web. You see these fun, epic and beautifully edited summer pics, from a person you know (or don’t), living their best life in some sunny place, but you don’t know that this person is visiting this spot every summer and actually wants to go some place else in the world, but their parents or partner don’t want to.

You see someone posting the perfect selfie, but you will never get to see the remaining 300 that didn’t make it to the Gram.

& what matters is investing your time and energy into bettering yourself for yourself.

Don’t be fooled by what you see or hear. Sometimes what you hear isn’t even true or you don’t know the full story behind it. You’re an amazing person that can and will live an amazing life. You’ll reach your successes, ambitions and goals without comparing, being bitter or judgmental. Be inspired, humble, reflect on life and watch it unfold like a beautiful sunflower on the first day of spring, even though it’s almost summer!


Guys! This week I’ll probably be hosting another Ask Me Anything session on, so keep an eye out on my blog or Instagram/Twitter/Facebook for more details on that!

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