We all have heard of the phrase: ”When one door closes, another opens.” And although a lot of people lean towards this wisdom, a lot of other people don’t. I have my own point of view when it comes to this, but it might not be what you think it is….
Doors, doors, doors
The title and header photo already give it away, but just in case you haven’t noticed it yet, I want you to take a look at it – That’s right. It says ”When one door closes, the adventure begins.”
I did this, because I think that when one door closes, another one doesn’t just magically open. Nah, fam. You gotta put in the work.
Once that door is slammed in your face, you gotta say F* it and grind even harder.
This is also when the adventure begins. I mean, who says that you have to look for another door? There are windows!? There are entries with no doors, but only a nice 70’s bead curtain. Stop thinking inside the box and expand your mind. Think bigger, think different, act different and different results will follow.
Spicy, fresh, & simple
Create your own adventure and give yourself a challenge. And every time you achieve the challenge, come up with a new one. Keep it spicy, keep it fresh, keep it simple. Don’t follow the crowd. Don’t walk a path that people say you should walk. Follow your own route. Once you stop being afraid of anything but doors, you’ll see that life has more to offer than just what you’re used to.
Believe me, I know what I’m talking about. I have always been that person who was planning the ”perfect life” but when things didn’t go as planned I got disappointed and unmotivated. But, thanks to those experiences I’ve learned that it is better to live life and to let it be, rather than ”to have” everything in control. You will find out that it has lots of benefits too. Some of those are:
- less stress
- less stress
- less stress
That’s right. Less stress! Once you accept that you cannot control everything, the calmness in the mind and body will follow. Believe me.
Let’s say -for example- that you have had a job interview.
You got all the degrees that are required, you have the experience, you speak 400 languages, you absolutely NAILED the lay-out of your curriculum vitaeyeye and the interview went nice and smoothly. It’s safe to say that you’re getting the job then, right? I mean, why shouldn’t you? You’re perfect and they know it.
But then your phone rings and this is what happens:
”Heller, uhm, so your job interview went pretty good. In fact, you’re PERFECT for this job, I mean CAN YOU ImaGINE DUDE YOu WOULD bE SIcK!! But um, you’re too good. Yes too good. So, uhm yeah, you don’t get the job. Sorry if you can’t afford to pay your bills now but uh, we do wish you the very best with finding a new job. byeeeeee!!!”
You are devastated, of course! And I can’t blame you. But do you see the problem here? You were expecting an answer you had no control over to begin with, even though you thought you had it all figured out. And this is just one example but it can also apply to friendships, relationships and anything else that goes away to make room for something new/better. So let it go, my dear.
Go on this adventure and enjoy the process. Do your ultimate best and work on the things you have fully control over. Anything else is just whatever it will turn out to be.
Embrace the experiences and learn from it. No more ”when one door closes, another opens”. From now on it’s:
Don’t put your all into one thing. Instead, divide your energy into multiple things and try to balance it out. And don’t be so hard for yourself. You’re doing amazing and I, Dounia MHarthi, am effin’ proud of you.