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Are You Feeling Insecure? Then This Is For You

How am I even going to start this..? I guess I just have to write what is on my mind. I feel like I haven’t really talked about it as much as I should’ve and that’s why I wanted to dedicate today’s blog post to it. What am I talking about you might ask? Well, insecurities.

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No matter how perfect or confident someone may seem, we all have a thing or two that we do not really like about ourselves. And that, is totally fine! But, how you can deal with those insecurities in order to not let it get into your head can be a hard thing to do. And that’s why in today’s blog post I’ll explain why you are enough and shouldn’t worry about your imperfections.

Truth or dare

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It all starts with being honest to yourself. Dare to ask yourself why you are insecure? As soon as you can answer this question, you’ll be able to find a solution. But remember, honesty is key. If you lie about this, you’ll only be lying to yourself.

There is no denying that most of our insecurities are due to what we surround ourselves by on a daily basis. Wether its friends, family, what we see on TV/Social Media or what we read in the magazines. We live in a time where we do almost anything to impress people. To create a version of ourselves that is not pure to our hearts, but accepted by the society we live in.

Under Pressure

As the title of this section already says, we are pretty much under pressure all the time. Of course we want to be accepted by our friends, that cute guy/girl in class, a colleague or your followers online. And if that means to change your appearance in order to become accepted, then why not, right? Because everything these days is about appearance.

”Do you have a big booty but small waist?” 

”Are you millionaire at the age of 19?”

”Do you even lift bro?”

Everything is about status. We are no longer competitive to ourselves, instead we want to  transcend the people we see flexing all the time. This is a very toxic mindset that can be very destructive to your well-being.

Before you try to be someone you’re not, just because you can’t accept the way you are, you should ask yourself

For whom am I doing this?

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be honest boo, I’m watching u 😘

Fake It Till You Make It

Just because people show you a certain version of themselves or their lives, doesn’t mean that, that it is the truth. Remember, people are in the position to only show you the things they want you to see. So please, don’t be fooled by what is being shown to you. Comparing your real self and real life to something that is made up on the web, TV, magazines or stories from your BFF’s is a complete waste of time.

To give you some perspective I’ll use myself as an example.

The truth about me:

I work 5 days a week, at the end of the month I receive my paycheck. In the meantime I’m blogging and I invest my own money into my blog. I like to travel, but not because I get sponsored, but because I work for it. I’m constantly working on myself, wether it’s mentally or physically and I do not always succeed in doing so but, I live my life the way I want to. I may not be perfect, but I am myself.

The ‘truth’ about me but on Social Media:

First my bio would look something like this;

  • ✨ 22 years old
  • 💰 Entrepreneur
  • 💻 Blogger
  • 📍 Around the world
  • 💪🏽 Grinding 24/7
  • 💙 70k+ followers strong

My Insta feed will be filled with pictures I took on vacation (that I had to pay for myself, but I’ll make you believe I make dat paper by blogging). I post pics of myself in a fancy car, (that I hired from the money I saved). Again, making you think I’m ”about that life”. Fancy dinner pictures, constantly surrounded by people because I’m populair and ur not.

Now, I’m not saying everyone on social media does this, but I’ll not sit here saying this doesn’t happen either.

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My point is, to inspire is to share the truth. People can only relate to a story where someone shows the success AND the struggle, not just the success.

And even the definition of success is a great topic to discuss on itself. To me, I would be HONORED if a great writer/positivity guru wants to collab with me. But, if that doesn’t happen that is fine too. My view on success is when I write a blog post and someone who’s suffering from severe depression, finds strength in my words to continue fighting. That my friends, is real success to me.

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just to prove my point. don’t be so hard on yourself and go with your own flow. screw what other think, you know yourself best. 🙏🏼

I’m 22 years old. I get confronted by all the successful millionaires on the web who are my age, all the time. But, should I think less of myself just because of something I see on the internet? No. And neither should you!

cartoonnetworkLive your life the way YOU feel is right. You have freckles? A small butt? Big booty but not a small waist? No abs? WHATEVER! Embrace yourself, embrace your ethnicity, body, mindset and everything that makes you, YOU.

Do not try to impress people who do not give a single damn about you, because you’ll only be playing yourself.

Live a life that fulfills and makes you happy. And if someone doesn’t like the way you talk, dress, act or whatever, then that’s their problem, not yours.

If you let insecurity take over you’ll become very negative, hateful to yourself but also to others. Don’t let that happen. Never let someone have such control over you.

Stay close to yourself and respect yourself enough to accept the way you are,

FLAWS AND ALL.

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