The Power of Independence

Today is the perfect day to talk about independence. What is it? Why is it important? What are the benefits? Why are people going crazy at supermarkets like there’s about the be a zombie-apocalypse? Wait, where was I going with this? Ah yes, roll up your sleeves babe, ‘cuz we got work to do!

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I wish I could write something inspring such as: It’s a wonderful Saturday evening. The sunset is painting the sky beautifully orange, little birds are flying around and as I’m writing this, I’m taking a sip of my delicious Sauvignon Blanc. But nope!

HA! Sorry to disappoint you guys, but the sun is anything but shining. The weather here in Holland is really getting on my nerves. People are going crazy in the supermarkets. Like, I’m talking about — Zombie Apocalypse/Walking Dead type of crazy, buying shit as if the world is about to end.

I also went to the grocery store a.k.a. moshpit, saw a fight happening over some toiletpaper and just when I thought I had everything I needed, my ass forgot to buy a bottle of Sauvignon Fucking Blanc. But hey, here’s a new blog post and I got a hell of a lot to share with you!

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gimme that toiletpaper and hand sanitizerrrrrr

Playing with my money, is like playing with my emotions

Independence to me is beauty. Just like positivity is, awareness, individuality, self-expression and confidence. It’s very important to only be depended on yourself. Because only then you’ll find the truest form of freedom.

Think about it, if you always need to ask your parents, partner or friends for favors, will you ever experience the taste of how it is to have put in the work yourself? I’m not saying it’s wrong to ask for a little help from time to time, because we all need it. But I am talking about the fact that when you put in the effort, you can do whatever you want.

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tell ’em Big Worm!

You don’t have to explain to people why you’re doing it, because it’s not their money, clothes or whatever it is you’re using and/or borrowing. Plus you don’t have to worry about paying them back, either.

Life is not going to give you what you want on a silver platter, you gotta put in the work. And believe me, the moment you start to make your own income, buy your own clothes, vacation trips, makeup, car and everything in between, you’ll not only be more grateful but also proud of yourself. By doing this, you’ll understand how good it is to not depend on others and how effin nice it is to be able to take care of yourself. There’s a certain ”worth” that comes along with it.

And if you really want to become financially independent, you could always give self-employment a try. How to do that, is something I still have to figure out myself, but it seems to be a reality to a lot of people out there! So you never know.. 😉

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To be financially independent is one thing, but how about relationships? I often hear or read about people saying that it’s important in life to find your ”other half”. Someone who ”completes you”. And I never really agreed with these sayings tbh.

Not to be a grumpy ass bitch, but I believe that you should never let someone else complete you. Rather, let them be an asset to your life. I don’t know if that’s the proper word to use, but basically what I mean is that at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter how good or bad the relationship is, you’ll have to deal with yourself 24/7.

A SMOOTH SEA NEVER MADE A SKILLED SAILORIf you put half of your self-responsibility in the hands of someone else, you’ll never be able to either express yourself the way you are or to find your truest self!

Everything starts from within, folks. Become one with yourself first, so that you can understand what your vision is on life. That way you will always stay close to who you are as an individual. Embracing who you are as a person leads to strength and confidence. It doesn’t matter if you’re dealing with a partner or best friend. Plus a little bonus thingy: when someone tries to fool you with their narcissism or fake friendship, you’ll be aware of this because their acts are going against your nature. Remember: in life, energy is key.

I don’t need a man! Unless he’s cute tho…

While I was on my way to the grocery store, I came across a woman who I’ve known for most of my life. We do not have a bond or anything, she just happens to be the mom of the kids my brothers and I went to elementary school with.

Anyways, she’s Moroccan too and for some reason in this culture, they always find it important to know that one particular thing. And I want you to answer what it could’ve been that she asked…

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photoshop skills on point 👌🏽 lmao.

Oh wait, what is that?

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There we go! The good answer is B, are you married already? 🎉

Now before you start to freak out and come at me for being racist, I’m allowed to joke about this since I’m part Moroccan and get asked this question every time I run into my fellow people. Nothing stereotypical, it’s da truff!

So of course my answer was that I’m not. I could tell she was shooketh. And I don’t blame her tho. I mean, I’m 23 years old. There are far more important things in life than getting tattoos, going out with friends and spending an entire Saturday watching On My Block (yes I am in love with Spooky, ‘cuz damn that man fine as fuuuuuuu).

I could for example, be a wife to someone! I mean, it should be the ultimate goal for a woman, right? To wash your man’s dirty underwear, cook him a nice meal and wake him up in the mornings….

And I’m not trying to sound like a feminist (although I kinda do lol), I just don’t understand why this is always the thing people want to know. They be like: How’s your love life? And I’m just like, girl we haven’t spoken to each other for months, how is life in general? How’s your health? Do you have a job you enjoy? How’s your dog doing!? Why is it always important to either be in a relationship or to know if someone is? I don’t get it.

I don’t mean to be salty, but to me that should never be your greatest goal in life. I find it much more important to be independent. And when the time comes that you find your knight in shining armor, or your bomb ass wifey, then you can both be a power couple, sharing whatever it is in life that you have to offer each other. But the key to everything is, that you got your shit together first. Roll up those sleeves, and get to work. Build yourself an empire, experience how it is to fall down and stand back up.

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yes oBi-WaN, my new empire!!!

Know who you are as a person, understand the positives and negatives of life and enjoy it to the fullest every single day. Learn to love and accept yourself. Be your number one priority and when the time comes that you will enter the stage of relationship, you’ll be ready to embrace it. And if that stage doesn’t come, that’s okay too. Never force it.

I wish y’all a wonderful weekend, stay safe and don’t forget to dabdeze-10-ontbrekende-emoji-willen-wij-nog-graag-willen-zien-146666-2 when you sneeze . X

Published by Dounia MHarthi

Positivity & Personal Development Blogger and creator of Good Vibes Boulevard. Likes to make jokes and spaghetti. Subscribe to my blog!

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